Growing Confidence
By Rebecca Edwards LCSW

Confidence can be described as a belief in one’s self and one’s ability to succeed. Striking a balance between too much and too little confidence can be challenging. Some would say that presenting too much confidence can come off as arrogant and standoffish. At the same time, having too little confidence can prevent you from taking risks and seizing opportunities—in school, at work, in your social life and beyond. Projecting just enough confidence helps you gain credibility, make a good lasting first impression, deal with pressure and meet personal and professional challenges head on.

So how can you become more confident? A good starting point is to think more confidently. Confidence is introspective – it is how sure you are about things. Developing your ability to think confidently can promote more confident behavior. Conversely, by letting worries and anxieties take over, self doubt can take over and confidence can become curtailed.

Thinking Confidently

Appreciate who you are – Remind yourself regularly of your strengths, talents, skills, and attributes.

Learn to manage your fears – It’s natural to have some anxieties from time to time. You’re not alone, but don’t let your concerns overtake you. Know when they need to be managed and check how rational they are.

Practice Positive Self-Talk – Catch yourself when you are engaging in negative self-talk and replace it with encouraging positive self-talk.

Stop comparing yourself to others – Everyone is different. Each of us is fulfilled in different ways. You are your own unique self.

Develop a positive mindset – Focus on what you can take control of instead of worrying about what might never happen. Remind yourself of your past and current successes. Be proud of your abilities and capabilities. If you think you will fail, you may be less motivated and put forth less effort.

Retrain your inner voice – In situations where you believe you lack confidence, check what your inner voice is telling you, and if it’s saying something negative try to replace it with a positive voice.

At Mind Over Matters we utilize positively focused cognitive behavioral therapy. We work with individuals who desire positive change and our primary focus is on helping you create and attain contentment, fulfillment, success, freedom, and peace.

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Mind Over Matters
9216 Clayton Road Suite 19
Ladue, MO 63124